Why doesn’t shaming people work?
When people are shamed and made to feel guilty their soul closes up and doesn’t expose itself and doesn’t trust after that. It just starts pretending. It starts playing the game of religion where you go through the motions, but you don’t really feel it or believe it anymore. You hardly trust it, but you keep paying your “life insurance” or fire insurance dues—just in case the whole thing is true.
Our churches are filled with these people not because they are bad people but because they have never been told what the mystics were told and dared to believe and dared to receive. God loves you and receives you as you really are, and not as you think you should be. Until that is actively and deeply experienced, you do not move from mere religion to actual spirituality.
From Richard Rohr – Following the Mystics through the Narrow Gate… Seeing God in All Things